If you are reading this text you may be in a position of power, privilege and access. Regardless of that, if you are reading this text then you are submerged, implicated, complicit, affected by white supremacy culture. You may be white, non-white or a person of color/ a person having a ongoing or changing racialized experience within kink culture. Let's start by acknowledging that the majority of the people reading this text (oh and maybe while we are naming things, maybe the majority of people facilitating in this conference) are white. How do we change that? Why is it important in this workshop to name that the majority of people visible in the kink community  are white? When the author of this text, i am talking about myself, is a queer, trans*/non-binary, immigrant, and Black with Indigenous to the americas and African diasporic ancestry; also krip, non-european, poor, palpable, orphan, educated, and femme. Consent is commonly thought of as yes or no, but it’s really not that. My point is, in the white discourse on consent within the kink community, the baseline or status quo is “this is consent”: yes/no. We will begin this workshop, by thinking by racism and whiteness in kink spaces, in collectivity,  and in separatist spaces. How can clarity hold complexity, and also invite us to participating in creating(some of) what is needed to enter a place of discomfort. We will start with with a undoing the concept of " universalized consent' and look at its relationship to  race, power and privilege, we will move into practice-based research in the following areas: embodied consent, implicit consent, and explicit consent.