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A kink in your neck putting a cramp in your scene? Come to this class to find out how someone with chronic pain can successfully plan fulfilling but still accessible scenes! We'll discuss mindfulness and chronic pain, communication skills around unique body needs, the role of pre-care and aftercare, and adaptive ways to play as a top and bottom. Come with questions and also suggestions to share!This class is for everyone--people with chronic pain, people who play with chronic pain peeps. Tops, bottoms, and solo-players.
In a world where sexual health stigma disproportionately impacts BIPOC communities, those working in the sex industry, and especially those who are both, open and empowered conversations are crucial. This session will break down the myths around sexually transmitted infections (STIs), offering honest guidance on disclosure, navigating relationships, and maintaining confidence and desirability. Together, we’ll explore the intersection of race, sex work, and sexual health, centering resilience, community care, and self-empowerment. Participants will leave with practical strategies for disclosure, self-advocacy tools, and a renewed sense of sexy confidence.
What is it like being the age that you are as a kinkster? How has age impacted your journey in kink? How does your age carry both privilege and marginalization within the scene? How can our spaces do better at including and supporting people of all ages? This panel discussion will bring together kinksters across the age spectrum to share perspectives and explore the impacts of age, aging, and ageism on kinky experience and community.
Impact play is a consensual BDSM activity that involves hitting/striking another human being. Many people use this form of play for sexual gratification or in power exchange, but others use it for different reasons, including connection and catharsis. Examples of this include slapping, punching, kicking, spanking, caning, and flogging. This is a beginners guide to impact play, and a core pillar of BDSM is safety. Topics will include but are not limited to: the definition of impact play, anatomy of the human body and safety/first aid, impact play techniques, and how to create an impact play scene. I will also share my experiences as a blind player and dominant. My hope is that students will learn valuable skills, gain knowledge, and have fun—I mean, what is life without laughter and smiles?
Love ageplay and want to connect with more ageplayers, or are curious about age play and want to learn more? Hosted by Daddy Jaeson and boi sassafras, the KBtL VI age play social provides a fun, interactive, and welcoming place for new and experienced age players to meet and interact. From storytime to interactive games and guided conversation, we hope to foster dialogue and connection amongst diverse age players. Daddy Jaeson and boi sassafras each have over 20 years of experience as ageplayers and are passionate about fostering inclusive ageplay communities.
This social hour is dedicated to military and first responder professionals—those who are often “on duty” even when off the clock. In this space, we invite you to intentionally power down and reconnect with yourself and your peers. While this is not a structured or guided session, your host will provide optional resources and simple exercises focused on relaxation, self-care, and nervous system regulation—tools to help ease the high-alert state so common in our work. Come as you are, take what you need, and connect with others who understand the weight of always being “on.”
Fireplay is the use of fire as the primary element in a scene.
Join the Demo Dungeon in a display of Fire Play.
In order to respect this space as a dungeon, please keep all questions until the end. This demonstration of impact should be treated as a scene, regardless of the number of people watching and any engagement from the Demo-Host and Demo-Assistant.
Join KBtL attendees in active, safe, and mutually enjoyable flirting. Come to this space to give and receive complements and/or connect with each other in ways a bit more risqué. While there is no nudity, or soliciting play in the Flirt Zones, if the feeling is mutually moving toward play feel free to take it to a DM. This is a good place to test the waters, vibe with cute folks, and have a good time. Note, if you are in the Flirt Zone rooms on Gather during the times they are happening, you are agreeing to potentially receive complements or be flirted with. [This session is open to anyone interested in flirting].
Wet and Messy play typically consists of engaging in substances that are “wet and messy,” also sometimes called sploshing. Frequently, though not always, this play involves food, mud, and chemicals (like slime). This type of play can involve having a particular substance dumped on you, or inside your clothing. Wet and Messy play almost never involves intentional play with bodily fluids. Join the Demo Dungeon in a display of Wet and Messy play. In order to respect this space as a dungeon, please keep all questions until the end. This demonstration of wet and messy play should be treated as a scene, regardless of the number of people watching and any engagement from the Demo-Host and Demo-Assistant.
Interrogation play can be intense, cathartic, erotic—and historically fraught. Rooted in militarized and carceral systems, it’s often portrayed in ways that glorify domination without consent, glorify state violence, or erase the trauma realities of marginalized people. So how do we engage with this psychological style of play in a way that feels aligned with our values, healing for our bodies, and empowering for our identities?This class is a trauma-informed, queer- and BIPOC-centered introduction to Interrogation Play that invites participants to approach reclaiming this kink with care, intention, and joy. We’ll explore its problematic history and unpack how factors like power, race, gender, disability, and class affect the ways we experience “questioning” in real life—and how to reimagine it in scene space.Rather than replicate harm, we’ll learn how to negotiate and redefine the edges of interrogation scenes so they can become tools of release, resistance or even reparation.
You are invited in our shared sacred space to explore, feel and transform together.We dive deep into the parts of yourself that hold access to comfort or systemic ease.This session focuses on exploring our privileges and marginalization without guilt, shame or apology. It is about meeting these parts with honesty, curiosity and care. We will explore what you carry that others may not and what you can offer yourself, others and the community.Through guided reflection, symbolic offerings and optional sharing you are invited to discover what you have to give. Not perse in terms of material or social privilege but also presence, space holding, insight or resilience. You may be surprised by what becomes visible when you turn toward yourself with compassion. As part of this ritual you are invited (but never required) to join in a short guided shamanic journey based on European practice.This meditative inner exploration offers a way to listen more deeply to what wants to be seen released or shared. You can choose to join, witness or temporarily step away during this part. This ceremony invites awareness without shame, and responsibility without heaviness.What you hold can become a gift. What you discover can become a choice. No (ritual) experience is needed. Come as you are. All identities, bodies, hearts and and emotional landscapes are welcome.
Getting your needs met while also meeting the needs of your little humans can often be at odds. This class will discuss creative strategies and resources to getting your kink on and balancing the demands of parenthood and other relationships. We will discuss time management, privacy, sex-positive parenting, building community, creative family-friendly storage solutions for your kink gear, suggestions of what to do if found in a compromising position by your offspring, and much much more.
BDSM offers a unique lens through which to examine the neuroscience of pain and pleasure. While pain is traditionally seen as a negative stimulus and pleasure as a positive one, BDSM disrupts this binary, showing how pain can be pleasurable and how power dynamics influence neurochemical responses. This class will explore the neurobiological, psychological, and evolutionary underpinnings of BDSM experiences, examining how pain interacts with the brain’s reward, pleasure, and stress systems. The lecture will cover the following:
- role of the spinothalamic tract and periaqueductal gray (PAG) in nociception (pain perception)
- different types of pain and pain sensitivities
- in-built pain modulating systems (ex: endogenous opioids)
- dopamine system in reward pathways
- endocannabinoids during orgasm
- adrenaline and its role in arousal
- oxytocin and vasopressin during recovery
- dissociation, pain fog and reduced pre-frontal cortex activity and its role in subspace
In a world where accountability often feels like a buzzword, this class invites you to take a hard look in the mirror and embrace the power of self-reflection. "Accountability Starts with Self" is a thought-provoking and deeply engaging workshop designed to inspire personal growth and foster genuine accountability in all areas of your life. This class is not for the faint of heart; it is intentionally designed to trigger introspection and challenge your current perspectives. Through guided discussions, dynamic activities, and reflective exercises, participants will explore the essential steps toward taking responsibility for their actions, decisions, and outcomes. You will be encouraged to confront uncomfortable truths and engage in meaningful dialogue about your experiences, beliefs, and behaviors. While this journey may be challenging, it is also profoundly rewarding.
When many of us see kink and bdsm practices, it’s from the lens of colonialism, carceral punishment and harm only. Caritia invites folks to take a more rounded view of these practices, one that incorporates the ritual practices of the African diaspora and the indigenous peoples of the South. Not to ignore colonial histories, but place them in perspective and take an intentional approach to exploring somatics and body exploration.
In this workshop, we want to share the results of many kinky sessions regarding overcoming sexual trauma. In a 2 years journey as a sexual and romantic relationship, we went through ups and downs following our aim to dissolve the trauma blockage. Apart from this, we want to give you new views on trauma. Train nervous system regulation tools and open space in which you can analyze and discuss your findings regarding trauma and kink. Content notes: trauma, sexual violence, child abuse, anal rape.
Join KBtL attendees in active, safe, and mutually enjoyable flirting. Come to this space to give and receive complements and/or connect with each other in ways a bit more risqué. While there is no nudity, or soliciting play in the Flirt Zones, if the feeling is mutually moving toward play feel free to take it to a DM. This is a good place to test the waters, vibe with cute folks, and have a good time. Note, if you are in the Flirt Zone rooms on Gather during the times they are happening, you are agreeing to potentially receive complements or be flirted with. [This session is open to anyone interested in flirting who identifies as transgender or nonbinary].
Caritia invites participants to get creative within this hands-on rope session, which is about finding ways to tie and be tied that fit your body and needs. This will be a session of tips, tricks and brainstorming in which folks are actively encouraged to tie along if they would like to. Questions and requests for practical possibilities are welcome. No matter your ability, there is something in the practice for you. *Minimum knowledge - single-column tie, tension & counter tension, and familiarity with the terminology is a bonus.
High giftedness in adults refers to an above-average IQ and EQ. Approximately 2-3% of the population falls into this category. However, high intellectual potential (HIP) is not just about IQ and EQ: It includes deep curiosity, fast learning, and strong problem-solving skills. HIP's often excel in their fields but may struggle with perfectionism, overthinking, and feeling misunderstood. Their intense emotions and deep thinking can lead to anxiety or impostor syndrome. As a HIP myself I have noticed I have found that HIp's feel at home in the kink communities.This class will cover the following topics:- how do you know if you are HIP?- What are the HIP talents that are beneficial for kinksters- what are the pitfalls and how to manage them.
Being Muslim and kinky is often seen as a contradiction—but for many of us, it’s a truth, a rebellion, a prayer in motion. This class holds space for Muslims navigating the complex intersections of faith, sexuality, and BDSM. Whether you’re closeted, out, new to kink, or a seasoned leatherfolk, this session is a place to explore what it means to live fully and authentically at the crossroads of Islam and kink.
It’s not easy to cope with disability under any circumstances, but when you have to deal with physical limitations, it may seem like there’s no energy to spare for “traditional” M/s. After all, isn’t the erotica full of masters who are always tall, strong, healthy, and able to wrestle their slaves to the ground – not to mention beautiful, physically perfect slaves? How can it work with a slave who can’t kneel or a master who can’t do basic things for themselves? This class will discuss how to make it work in the face of all the obstacles. Not only can M/s work in the face of physical problems, it can become a kind of “exoskeleton” for the disabled partner, keeping them going in the face of all odds.
The KBtL VI Keynote event is a combination of three back-to-back shorter events. Sit down to enjoy the readings of her work, with Author, Cecilia Tan and other authors in reading a selection of works to get your mind moving and your interest piqued. Then, taking a deeper dive into KBtL VI’s theme, Privilege at the Margins, presented by proud Northeast slave 2024, Akasha. Finally, wrap up the event with engaging conversation in one of the following spaces:
- New this year, KBtL Flirt Zones - Cycle of Sexuality Interviews [requires advanced signup] - writing prompts - casual conversation - or KBtL’s own, Marginalization Debrief. - The event will be hosted by KBtL VI’s own Emcee, AngelaRae. We hope to see you there!
Often events and spaces focus on Accessibility: can we get in the door and attend the classes. That is not enough to include us as full members of the community: respected leaders, presenters, and those others turn to. That may not be enough for us to build connections and network. I will use my experience as a blind educator as a jumping off point to explore what real inclusion looks like, focused on being part of community not just access to events and spaces. My focus is from a disability lens but I welcome other lenses to community inclusion.
Ready to take your ageplay to the next level? Join Daddy Jayeson and boi Sassafras Patterdale, both with over 20 years in ageplay and Leather communities, for an interactive class exploring advanced ageplay themes. This workshop will cover crafting complex scenes, developing sustainable 24/7 ageplay power dynamics, and integrating D/s with ageplay, including little service. We’ll also focus on gender-inclusive play, centering the experiences of nonbinary and transgender Leather individuals. Dive into fluid identities, role-switching, and the intersection of power exchange with ageplay. A key topic will be "dark ageplay," exploring consensual non-consent, humiliation, and pain-based play, including how to safely incorporate trauma and edgeplay into your dynamics.
Join KBtL attendees in active, safe, and mutually enjoyable flirting. Come to this space to give and receive complements and/or connect with each other in ways a bit more risqué. While there is no nudity, or soliciting play in the Flirt Zones, if the feeling is mutually moving toward play feel free to take it to a DM. This is a good place to test the waters, vibe with cute folks, and have a good time. Note, if you are in the Flirt Zone rooms on Gather during the times they are happening, you are agreeing to potentially receive complements or be flirted with. [This session is open to anyone interested in flirting who identifies as femme and is interested in femme folks].
Pathological demand avoidance is an extreme avoidance of every day demands. As a service submissive, it's expected of me to follow protocols and requests. So how do I manage both? Bratting, and you can too! Let's talk through how consensual bratting can create a safe dynamic for submissives or bottoms to say no or act out our PDA while also having a safe space to give into orders. I will walk you through what my PDA looks like, how I use bratting to unmask in a world where I am expected to follow through with orders all day. And how having the space to say no gives room for letting go and having the autonomy to do what is requested of you by your top.
Whitewashing is typically the practice of distorting, omitting or downplaying aspects of race, racism, and ethnicity to present a more “favorable” outcome or engagement. This happens all over culture, media, day-to-day life and Kink is no exception. Unfortunately, putting whiteness first, limits who can safely participate in BDSM and in the Kink Community. With this in mind, let’s have a frank and honest conversation about how whitewashing impacts kink spaces and what we can do on the individual and community levels to better this situation. This session is open to all attendees, though we will be prioritizing non-white perspectives.
A Social space to address what it means to be aging in the BDSM Scene
💦Featuring BIPOC +/- Kink Narratives💫 Welcome to the Sexploration Quest, where we push the boundaries of desire, uncover the taboo, and explore all the shades of kink. Today, we dive deep into pleasure, power, and play, through the eyes of BIPOC storytellers. Whether you're a novice or a seasoned explorer, this is the night to be unapologetically open and curious about sex, kink, and everything in between. 🍑 THE QUEST BEGINS...This isn’t just any storytelling night—it’s an adventure of hot, raw, and authentic erotic journeys. We’ve got categories that will tease your senses and keep your heart racing all night long: 💡 HOW IT WORKS:✨ Arrive, get comfy, and grab a drink to set the mood. ✨ We’re keeping it safe, consensual, and hot—zero judgment, all celebration. ✨ Storytellers get 5-7 minutes to share. We'll rotate through the categories, keeping the heat high and the vibes flowing. 🔥 Come ready to explore. Leave with new insights. And let’s make this night unforgettable. 🔥
In this discussion, we will discuss the asexual and aromantic perspectives of interacting in romantic, platonic, and sexual relationships. Same and Mixed-orientation relationships manifest in many ways. How do we balance the normalcy of unsaid expectations still present in non-heteronormative dynamics? Can we normalize relational negotiations while still promoting spontaneity and organic bonding? What stereotypes do aroaces experiences that can inhibit their bonding and relational growth? This discussion is open to asexuals, aromantics, and allosexuals/alloromantics (non-ace/aro partners and allies).
“Sticks and stones may break our bones, but my skin don’t bruise the same as yours.” Have you ever taken an impact class and the instructor talks about the skin upon impact will start to turn pink, red, and maybe even purple and blue? If you are melanated, have you ever played with someone who was not and they kept hitting you over and over, harder and harder because they wanted your skin to turn pink and red? It is important that we have discussions on playing with people with different skin types. We will also talk about the expectations of the D-Type and the S-Type from impact play.
Collaring has long held deep meaning in kink and BDSM communities — often symbolizing ownership, devotion, and connection between Dominants and submissives. But what about when the collar is placed by one’s own hand? Self-collaring has emerged as a personal and often radical ritual of reclaiming power, setting boundaries, and defining self-worth. This session explores self-collaring not just as an alternative to partnered dynamics, but as a meaningful practice in its own right — one that can coexist with relationships of all kinds. Whether single, solo, partnered, or somewhere in between, individuals are using self-collaring to affirm their autonomy, embody personal power, and honor their commitments to self. Especially relevant for those navigating healing from codependency, complex relationship histories, or identity formation, self-collaring offers a way to say “I am Daddy” — not as a role given, but one claimed.
Join topic “experts” in a discussion mimicking a cross between fireside chats and a community information exchange. In this new, BRITE sponsored, event participants can drop in on any/all of the 4 topics to ask questions, provide insight, and discuss with fellow community members. This year’s topics include: 1) Financial Accessibility with (Expert’s Name coming soon); 2) Technology and Kink: Websites, Social Media, and Online Events with (Expert’s Name coming soon); 3) Navigating Inclusive and Exclusive Kink Communities with (Expert’s Name coming soon); and 4) Holding Privilege and Allyship in Kink Spaces with (Expert’s Name coming soon).
Join KBtL attendees in active, safe, and mutually enjoyable flirting. Come to this space to give and receive complements and/or connect with each other in ways a bit more risqué. While there is no nudity, or soliciting play in the Flirt Zones, if the feeling is mutually moving toward play feel free to take it to a DM. This is a good place to test the waters, vibe with cute folks, and have a good time. Note, if you are in the Flirt Zone rooms on Gather during the times they are happening, you are agreeing to potentially receive complements or be flirted with. [This session is open to anyone interested in flirting who identifies as masculine and is interested in masculine folks].
AD(H)D is one of the most well known forms of neurospiciness. Yet there are still a lot of misconceptions, (false) expectations, doubts and fears surrounding this topic. Not in the last place from those who experience it daily. As a top or D-type, this difference in wiring can cause all kinds of situations and reactions. Some of these are very much embraced and considered positive, some might be (felt as) less favourable. The same goes for the special traits people with AD(H)D might have. This session covers topics like planning, communication, emotional ups and downsand how to work with both the strengths and the struggles. While we’ll focus on the positive, we won’t ignore the harder stuff like (mental) health issues and trauma either. This class is created by and for D-types with AD(H)D and their partners but everyone’s welcome. You can join in and share, or just hang back and observe. There’ll be quite some (optional) interactive bits and a handout is included in the session.
Pain can be a language—one we learn early, often in silence. For many people with a history of emotional dysregulation, trauma, or self-injury, pain-based play can offer an unexpected path not just to survival, but to connection. This class explores the nuanced psychological and embodied experiences of masochism through the lens of conscious practice, somatic awareness, and healing-centered kink. We'll explore: The neurobiology of pain and pleasure: how the body interprets pain differently in consensual contexts, Shifting from unconscious coping mechanisms to intentional, negotiated masochistic play, The role of ritual, repetition, and containment in creating emotional safety, Techniques for grounding, somatic tracking, and integrating intense sensation, Navigating emotional flashbacks or unexpected responses during scenes, Discussing your history with partners—without shame, pressure, or over-disclosure, Reclaiming agency over the body, pain, and emotional expression.
Join KBtL attendees in active, safe, and mutually enjoyable flirting. Come to this space to give and receive complements and/or connect with each other in ways a bit more risqué. While there is no nudity, or soliciting play in the Flirt Zones, if the feeling is mutually moving toward play feel free to take it to a DM. This is a good place to test the waters, vibe with cute folks, and have a good time. Note, if you are in the Flirt Zone rooms on Gather during the times they are happening, you are agreeing to potentially receive complements or be flirted with. [This session is open to anyone interested in flirting].
Impact play, simply put, is hitting another person; but there’s much more skill involved. Some impact comes with implements such as floggers, canes, or whips. Some impact is with bare hands; such as spanking, punching, or kicking. Join the Demo Dungeon in a display of Impact. In order to respect this space as a dungeon, please keep all questions until the end. This demonstration of impact should be treated as a scene, regardless of the number of people watching and any engagement from the Demo-Host and Demo-Assistant.
More and more, BDSM is finding its way into the mainstream. Many kink-inclined individuals discover this world through popular media in TV and Books - think 'The Secretary', 'Shades of Grey', 'Bonding' 'Babygirl'. While some may argue that, as a whole, this is a positive development, we should take a critical look at what kinds of dynamics these media depict. Let's have this talk together, exchange book recommendations, and discuss how we would like to see the depiction of kink in popular media develop.
Sharps play, as might be obvious, encompasses play with sharp objects. This can be through needles as well as knives and other sharps. Sharps can be used as a physical implementation as well as in fear-play, medical play, and more. Join the Demo Dungeon in a display of sharps. In order to respect this space as a dungeon, please keep all questions until the end. This demonstration of sharps play should be treated as a scene, regardless of the number of people watching and any engagement from the Demo-Host and Demo-Assistant.
Ever wonder why certain folks have huge fetlife followings? Or why certain folks in your local community seem to always get hit up for play? Do you ever just sit back and wonder "how in the heck did they get so popular?"? Well then please join Princess at the intersection (because intersectionality is important!) of Desirability and Politics for a guided discussion about pretty privilege, intersectionality, desirability politics, and their relation to marginalized identities in the community.
From cultural ordeal rituals to monastic submission, the elements of BDSM have been part of people's spiritual lives for millennia. We'll explore the different ways one can incorporate these varied practices into your spiritual life, from sacred pain ordeals to cathartic ritual theater to an ethical and spiritual expression of submission and mastery. By the author of "Dark Moon Rising: Pagan BDSM".
This class explores the complex, often unspoken dynamics of white-passing privilege within kink spaces. Drawing from lived experience, cultural analysis, and community insight, we’ll unpack how proximity to whiteness can impact visibility, trust, desirability, and belonging—both in personal play and in public kink spaces. Through the 90 minute discussion, we will will examine how passing privilege centers white presenting kinksters and decenters BIPOC members. We’ll explore questions like: Who gets to be “safe” in a dungeon? Who gets believed when things go wrong? How can we use passing privilege to create more inclusive spaces without centering our whiteness? This is a space for accountability and white fragility needs to be set aside. Whether your white presenting or not, this is a space to share feelings, and collaborate on creating kink spaces that are inclusive and accessible for all who wish to participate.
Conflict is not the enemy; disconnection is. When we approach strife as a sacred messenger, we honor the spirit of Leather itself and the values we chose to walk in. This workshop adapts Sobonfu Somé's 'The Spirit of Intimacy' to guide us in transforming disagreements into opportunities for deeper connection. Creating a counter culture that prioritizing productive resolution over personal comfort, standing in our boots is being present and accountable when situations get uncomfortable. By drawing from both Somé's teachings and Leather culture's principles of ritual, power exchange, community accountability, and honoring lineage we'll build a framework for intimate, safe conflict rather than destructive.