Educators

  • Akasha (she/her/hers, they/them/theirs) - Keynote Speaker, Presenter

    The identities I hold or circumstances that have disadvantaged me are listed in the anonymous identities page on the website.

    Akasha, proud Northeast slave 2024, MAsT International Presenter 2023, Sister of the House of Kush and a member of ONYX Pearls New York/Northeast, is a polyamorous, pansexual Leatherwoman and masochist, as well as a collared slave. Akasha is an avid reader and advocate for social justice and equity in cannabis in both a sociopolitical and criminal justice context, LGBTQIAA+ rights and representation, BIPOC liberation and the need for accomplices and allies, as well as womanism and intersectionality in the bell hooks and Kimberlé Crenshaw traditions. Having been in the kink community for 13 years, her experiences span the United States, France, Korea, Japan and the United Kingdom, with her home scene being NYC.

    Interrogation Play 101: Reclaiming the Scene, Rewriting the Script (Extended Access)
    Zoom
    Duration: 90 minutes
    Educators:
    Topic: Physical Skills, Power Exchange, Privilege at the Margins (theme)
    Type: Workshop

    Interrogation play can be intense, cathartic, erotic—and historically fraught. Rooted in militarized and carceral systems, it’s often portrayed in ways that glorify domination without consent, glorify state violence, or erase the trauma realities of marginalized people. So how do we engage with this psychological style of play in a way that feels aligned with our values, healing for our bodies, and empowering for our identities?This class is a trauma-informed, queer- and BIPOC-centered introduction to Interrogation Play that invites participants to approach reclaiming this kink with care, intention, and joy. We’ll explore its problematic history and unpack how factors like power, race, gender, disability, and class affect the ways we experience “questioning” in real life—and how to reimagine it in scene space.Rather than replicate harm, we’ll learn how to negotiate and redefine the edges of interrogation scenes so they can become tools of release, resistance or even reparation.

  • Axel (she/her/hers) - Presenter

    The identities I hold or circumstances that have disadvantaged me are listed in the anonymous identities page on the website.

    Axel is a Black, Indigenous, Queer leathergirl based in Boston and the visionary founder of Devour ATL. A proud masochist, Axel finds deep pleasure through pain and entered the kink community as a path to explore energy release and personal healing. Her journey through kink has ignited a powerful passion for helping others discover identity, self-love, and radical expression through BDSM. Axel is a dynamic switch with a deep love for shibari. Her work has been featured at international venues including Folsom Street Fair, Karada House Berlin, and Shibari Study. Beyond Devour, Axel dedicates her energy to uplifting the broader kink community. She supports other kink-centered organizations in achieving their missions through community service.

    Allah Knows My Safe Word (Extended Access)
    Zoom
    Duration: 90 minutes
    Educators:
    Topic: Race, Spirituality
    Type: Class

    Being Muslim and kinky is often seen as a contradiction—but for many of us, it’s a truth, a rebellion, a prayer in motion. This class holds space for Muslims navigating the complex intersections of faith, sexuality, and BDSM. Whether you’re closeted, out, new to kink, or a seasoned leatherfolk, this session is a place to explore what it means to live fully and authentically at the crossroads of Islam and kink.

    From Coping to Connection: Conscious Masochism and Embodied Healing (Extended Access)
    Zoom
    Duration: 90 minutes
    Educators:
    Topic: Connection, Kink Identities
    Type: Class

    Pain can be a language—one we learn early, often in silence. For many people with a history of emotional dysregulation, trauma, or self-injury, pain-based play can offer an unexpected path not just to survival, but to connection. This class explores the nuanced psychological and embodied experiences of masochism through the lens of conscious practice, somatic awareness, and healing-centered kink. We'll explore: The neurobiology of pain and pleasure: how the body interprets pain differently in consensual contexts, Shifting from unconscious coping mechanisms to intentional, negotiated masochistic play, The role of ritual, repetition, and containment in creating emotional safety, Techniques for grounding, somatic tracking, and integrating intense sensation, Navigating emotional flashbacks or unexpected responses during scenes, Discussing your history with partners—without shame, pressure, or over-disclosure, Reclaiming agency over the body, pain, and emotional expression.

  • BlindDancer (he/him/his, they/them/theirs) - Presenter

    I am a white person who lives in the United States of America. My nationality is of the United States of America. The following immigration identity apply to me: no immediate immigration background. I am genderqueer, genderfluid, or gender expansive; a cisgender man; bi- or ambi- sexual/amorous; pan- or poly- sexual/romantic; queer; in non-monogamous relationship(s); and married by choice (legally). I am seriously impacted by the following disability: blind/low vision. I am 46-55 years old. Spiritually and religiously I am Pagan/Wiccan. I have experienced the following major life disruptions: survivor of an epidemic/pandemic, survivor of other traumatic situation, political/social unrest. In a kink setting, I am marginalized for my interest in primal play.

    BlindDancer is a writer, a teacher and a priest. He is poly, queer and pansexual. They found the intersection between the neopagan community and the lifestyle community back in 2011, and through that found the M/s community. He has been teaching and leading rituals since 2013. Love and intimacy are skills; we can learn them, teach them and practice them. BlindDancer is passionate about sharing what he has learned and helping people create the path to intimacy and relationships that are right for them. They are a master in spirituality based M/s Dynamics.

    Beyond Accessibility to Real Inclusion (Extended Access)
    Zoom
    Duration: 90 minutes
    Educators:
    Topic: Accessibility/Disability
    Type: Community Discussion

    Often events and spaces focus on Accessibility: can we get in the door and attend the classes. That is not enough to include us as full members of the community: respected leaders, presenters, and those others turn to. That may not be enough for us to build connections and network. I will use my experience as a blind educator as a jumping off point to explore what real inclusion looks like, focused on being part of community not just access to events and spaces. My focus is from a disability lens but I welcome other lenses to community inclusion.

  • Blu Doppe (they/them/theirs) - Presenter

    I am a white person who lives in Eastern Europe (including Russia) in Poland. My nationality is of Western Europe in Germany. The following immigration and linguistic identities apply to me: immigrated as an adult, English is not my first language, I learned English as an adult. I am transgender, transfeminine, and nonbinary; bi- or ambi- sexual/amorous; in non monogamous relationship(s), and in a committed lifetime partnership (without legal marriage. The following familial and caregiving identities apply to me: never been a caregiver, raised by a single parent, raised by divorced parents. I am seriously impacted by the following disability: mental health illness/condition. I am neurodiverse. I am 36-45 years old. Spiritually I am Buddhist. Religiously I am Agnostic. I have the following financial disadvantages: income doesn’t consistently meet my financial needs, income falls at or below the minimum wage, income is low but enough. I have experienced the following major life disruptions: survivor of abuse/assault, survivor of other traumatic situation. In a kink setting, I am marginalized for my interest in puppy play. I have experience with an addiction challenge.

    Blu Doppe has been as freelance trainer for 11 years and has gained whys knowledge autodidacticly, in activist communities and at university. Blu’s own experiences also play a big role for blu’s knowledge. Blu has a degree as social justice and radical diversity trainer, a degree as theatre of the oppressed trainer, and as a betzavta trainer. Blu is NVC-Mediator, a sex educator and a laughter yoga trainer too. Blu is also in training to become a systemic therapist and a Playfight-Trainer. Blu regularly gains further qualifications around the topics sexual, amorous and gender diversity, sexuality, gender roles and all other intersections.

    How I Overcame Sexual Trauma with Kink and Trust: A Relationship Experiment (Extended Access)
    Zoom
    Duration: 90 minutes
    Topic: Other Marginalization, Relationships
    Type: Workshop

    In this workshop, we want to share the results of many kinky sessions regarding overcoming sexual trauma. In a 2 years journey as a sexual and romantic relationship, we went through ups and downs following our aim to dissolve the trauma blockage. Apart from this, we want to give you new views on trauma. Train nervous system regulation tools and open space in which you can analyze and discuss your findings regarding trauma and kink. Content notes: trauma, sexual violence, child abuse, anal rape.

  • Caritia (No pronouns) - Presenter

    I am a Person of Color and Black and German who lives in Western Europe in Germany. My nationality is of Western Europe in Great Britain The land I live on and/or the land of my nationality has been stolen, colonized, under siege, or an active warzone, but not in my lifetime. The following immigration and linguistic identities apply to me: immigrated as an adult, multi-lingual, English is my primary language. I am genderqueer/genderfluid/gender expansive, Pan- or poly- sexual/romantic, demisexual/demiromantic, queer, and in non-monogamous relationship(s). The following familial and caregiving identities apply to me: non-primary caregiver, raised in a standard/nuclear family. I am seriously impacted by the following disability: cognitive or learning disability/condition. I am mildly impacted by the following disability: chronic illness/condition. I am neurodiverse. I am 46-55 years old and I am an Elder. Spiritually I am Agnostic. I have the following financial disadvantage: income doesn’t consistently meet my financial needs. I am/was a sex worker (by choice).

    Caritia lives a queer, gender-non-conforming, Afro-diaspora (afab) life. Walking a path with invisible disabilities and the living challenges which accompany that life. Educator, multi-disciplinary artist, s-worker, and ongoing work in process, whose advocacy for establishing boundaries is as strong as the desire to love with truth and honesty. With over 20 years of expertise in divergent lifestyles, space-holding, and body-based practices. On a quiet mission to destigmatise difference and return power to each individual to uplift and support the collective. Using the language of kink to the point of geeky excitement. Caritia’s fascination with the root/the body stems from a longing to deeply ‘listen’ to the body holistically, from the inside out. The CEO and Co-Founder of Karada House & OhYesPlease.org, two independent queer companies based in Berlin (Germany). Offering workshops and tailoring experience sessions for a diversity of people and bodies.

    Decolonising Kink (Extended Access)
    Zoom
    Duration: 150 minutes
    Educators:
    Topic: Community, Privilege at the Margins (theme), Race
    Type: Workshop

    When many of us see kink and bdsm practices, it’s from the lens of colonialism, carceral punishment and harm only. Caritia invites folks to take a more rounded view of these practices, one that incorporates the ritual practices of the African diaspora and the indigenous peoples of the South. Not to ignore colonial histories, but place them in perspective and take an intentional approach to exploring somatics and body exploration.

    Adaptive Ties (Extended Access)
    Zoom
    Duration: 90 minutes
    Educators:
    Topic: Accessibility/Disability, Physical Skills
    Type: Workshop

    Caritia invites participants to get creative within this hands-on rope session, which is about finding ways to tie and be tied that fit your body and needs. This will be a session of tips, tricks and brainstorming in which folks are actively encouraged to tie along if they would like to. Questions and requests for practical possibilities are welcome. No matter your ability, there is something in the practice for you. *Minimum knowledge - single-column tie, tension & counter tension, and familiarity with the terminology is a bonus.

  • D_Moon_ (she/her/hers) - Demo Host, Presenter

    I am a white person and half Dutch, half German. The following linguistic identities apply to me: English is not my first language, English is not my primary language, I am multi-lingual. I am a cisgender woman, pan- or poly- sexual/romantic, asexual/aromantic, demisexual/demiromantic, queer, in non-monogamous relationship(s), and a relationship anarchist. The following familial and caregiving identities apply to me: former caregiver, primarily raised by 1 parent (not single-parent household), parent-death. I am seriously impacted by the following disabilities: chronic-, and mental- illness/condition, physical disability/condition. I am mildly impacted by the following disabilities: mobility or balance, sensory, social, and other disability/condition. I am neurodiverse. I am 36-45 years old. Spiritually I am Pagan/Wiccan (traditional, liberal) and participate in other religions (traditional, liberal). Religiously I am [religious Pagan/Wiccan (traditional, liberal) and participate in other religions (traditional, liberal). The following faiths I’m formerly connected to, such as through my family or culture: Atheism and Catholicism. I have the following financial disadvantages: receives social services, welfare, public assistance, and/or social benefits; income is low, but is enough. I have experienced the following major life disruptions: survivor of sexual assault, survivor of abuse/assault, survivor of an epidemic/pandemic, survivor of other traumatic situation.

    D_Moon_ is a Dutch D-type, bratty sadist, spoonie, greyA-pansexual, neurospicy, fire artist, pirate, proud pagan and teacher. She has been exploring the worlds of BDSM since her early twenties. Some of her specialties are fire- impact- and sensation play and she loves leather and latex. D_Moon_ is well experienced as (certified, BEd) teacher & coach, seasoned performer and organiser and has presented workshops at many (inter)national events for about 15 years. She is a kinky witch who is also a trained shamanic practitioner, active pagan and ritualist who explores spirituality in- and outside of the BDSM-lifestyle. She loves working with people and has her own business (@CeremonieMrs) in both kink- and vanilla celebrancy, ritual work and coaching. D_Moon_ enjoys sharing knowledge and helping people from all walks of life make the next step in their life or kink journey.

    Fire Play Demo
    Gather
    Duration: 75 minutes
    Educators:
    Topic: General BDSM, Physical Skills
    Type: Demo

    Fireplay is the use of fire as the primary element in a scene.

    Join the Demo Dungeon in a display of Fire Play.

    In order to respect this space as a dungeon, please keep all questions until the end. This demonstration of impact should be treated as a scene, regardless of the number of people watching and any engagement from the Demo-Host and Demo-Assistant.

    What I Hold, I Offer (privilege work ceremony)
    Zoom
    Duration: 90 minutes
    Educators:
    Topic: Privilege at the Margins (theme), Spirituality
    Type: Event

    You are invited in our shared sacred space to explore, feel and transform together.We dive deep into the parts of yourself that hold access to comfort or systemic ease.This session focuses on exploring our privileges and marginalization without guilt, shame or apology. It is about meeting these parts with honesty, curiosity and care. We will explore what you carry that others may not and what you can offer yourself, others and the community.Through guided reflection, symbolic offerings and optional sharing you are invited to discover what you have to give. Not perse in terms of material or social privilege but also presence, space holding, insight or resilience. You may be surprised by what becomes visible when you turn toward yourself with compassion. As part of this ritual you are invited (but never required) to join in a short guided shamanic journey based on European practice.This meditative inner exploration offers a way to listen more deeply to what wants to be seen released or shared. You can choose to join, witness or temporarily step away during this part. This ceremony invites awareness without shame, and responsibility without heaviness.What you hold can become a gift. What you discover can become a choice. No (ritual) experience is needed. Come as you are. All identities, bodies, hearts and and emotional landscapes are welcome.

    ADHDom (Extended Access)
    Zoom
    Duration: 150 minutes
    Educators:
    Topic: Accessibility/Disability, Power Exchange
    Type: Class

    AD(H)D is one of the most well known forms of neurospiciness. Yet there are still a lot of misconceptions, (false) expectations, doubts and fears surrounding this topic. Not in the last place from those who experience it daily. As a top or D-type, this difference in wiring can cause all kinds of situations and reactions. Some of these are very much embraced and considered positive, some might be (felt as) less favourable. The same goes for the special traits people with AD(H)D might have. This session covers topics like planning, communication, emotional ups and downsand how to work with both the strengths and the struggles. While we’ll focus on the positive, we won’t ignore the harder stuff like (mental) health issues and trauma either. This class is created by and for D-types with AD(H)D and their partners but everyone’s welcome. You can join in and share, or just hang back and observe. There’ll be quite some (optional) interactive bits and a handout is included in the session.

  • Daddy Jayeson (he/him/his) - Presenter, Social Host

    I am a Person of Color and Native or Indigenous who lives in Canada or Greenland in Canada. My nationality is of Canada or Greenland in Canada. The land I live on and/or the land of my nationality has been stolen, colonized, under siege, or an active warzone in my lifetime. The following immigration and linguistic identities apply to me: no immediate immigration background, English is my only language. I am transgender; transmasculine; genderqueer, genderfluid, or gender expansive; a lesbian; bi- or ambi- sexual/amorous; queer; and in non-monogamous relationship(s). The following familial and caregiving identities apply to me: primary caregiver for non adult chilren, former fosterer child, former adopted child, former runaway and/or homeless youth, raised in a standard/nuclear family. I am neurodiverse. I am 36-45 years old. Religiously I am Protestant. I have experienced the following major life disruptions: incarceration, homelessness/unhoused, survivor of abuse/assault. In a kink setting, I am marginalized for my interest in age play. I am/was a sex worker (by choice). I am a person of size.

    Daddy Jayeson is a Sir who been involved in the Leather community for 25+ years. He attended boy’s training camp in Dallas, Texas in 2004 and describes it as a life changing event. He was an organiser of the Toronto Women and Trans S/m discussion group, previous member of Toronto boys of Leather (TboL), and worked at the Black Eagle Toronto. Daddy Jayeson has led workshops on surgical stapling, play piercing, D/s relationships, sex work as empowerment, age play, edge play and many other topics. Daddy Jayeson was the Northeast Regional Coordinator for an international women’s leather contest and had organised and hosted play parties locally.

    Age Play Social
    Gather
    Duration: 60 minutes
    Topic: Kink Identities
    Type: Social

    Love ageplay and want to connect with more ageplayers, or are curious about age play and want to learn more? Hosted by Daddy Jaeson and boi sassafras, the KBtL VI age play social provides a fun, interactive, and welcoming place for new and experienced age players to meet and interact. From storytime to interactive games and guided conversation, we hope to foster dialogue and connection amongst diverse age players. Daddy Jaeson and boi sassafras each have over 20 years of experience as ageplayers and are passionate about fostering inclusive ageplay communities.

    Power Protocol and Playtime: A Deep Dive into Intensive Age Play (Extended Access)
    Zoom
    Duration: 90 minutes
    Topic: General BDSM, Relationships
    Type: Workshop

    Ready to take your ageplay to the next level? Join Daddy Jayeson and boi Sassafras Patterdale, both with over 20 years in ageplay and Leather communities, for an interactive class exploring advanced ageplay themes. This workshop will cover crafting complex scenes, developing sustainable 24/7 ageplay power dynamics, and integrating D/s with ageplay, including little service. We’ll also focus on gender-inclusive play, centering the experiences of nonbinary and transgender Leather individuals. Dive into fluid identities, role-switching, and the intersection of power exchange with ageplay. A key topic will be "dark ageplay," exploring consensual non-consent, humiliation, and pain-based play, including how to safely incorporate trauma and edgeplay into your dynamics.

  • Echolynx (Pronouns in another language, they/them/theirs) - Event Host

    Opening Ceremonies (Extended Access)
    Zoom
    Duration: 60 minutes
    Educators:
    Type: Unknown

    Description coming soon

  • Ezulie Supreme (she/her/hers, they/them/theirs) - Presenter

    I am a Person of Color and Black who lives in the United States of America. The country that I reside in and/or my country of nationality has criminalized one or more of my identities. The land I live on and/or the land of my nationality has been stolen, colonized, under siege, or an active warzone in my lifetime. The following immigration identity applies to me: no immediate immigration background. I am non-binary; genderqueer, genderfluid or gender expansive; pan- or poly- sexual/romantic; queer; and in non-monogamous relationship(s). The following familial identities apply to me: raised by a single parent, raised by non-blood family members. I am mildly impacted by the following disability: cognitive/learning disability/condition. I am neurodiverse. I am 36-45 years old. Spiritually I am a part of other religions. I have experienced the following major life disruptions: survivor of sexual assault, survivor of abuse/assault. I am/was a sex worker (by choice).

    Ezulie is a Queer, proud Leatherperson, educator, and devoted community organizer. For Ezulie, Leather represents the profound reclamation of one's body and power, coupled with dedicated service to the community through establishing accessible care networks rooted in collective liberation. As a founding member of House of Supreme—a Leather powerhouse of educators—Ezulie centers the experiences of QTBIPOC, disabled, and neurodivergent communities. They honor the legacy of Leather elders, organize to sustain spaces for our current communities, and preserve dungeons and third spaces as sacred realms for those yet to begin their awakenings. Ezulie believes in the importance of Queer Black representation in the scene and advocates that education should transcend financial barriers, ensuring that kink isn’t for just those who can afford it, but remains accessible to all who want to partake.

    Standing in Boots: Being Present & Accountable During Conflict (Extended Access)
    Zoom
    Duration: 90 minutes
    Topic: Connection, Other Marginalization
    Type: Class

    Conflict is not the enemy; disconnection is. When we approach strife as a sacred messenger, we honor the spirit of Leather itself and the values we chose to walk in. This workshop adapts Sobonfu Somé's 'The Spirit of Intimacy' to guide us in transforming disagreements into opportunities for deeper connection. Creating a counter culture that prioritizing productive resolution over personal comfort, standing in our boots is being present and accountable when situations get uncomfortable. By drawing from both Somé's teachings and Leather culture's principles of ritual, power exchange, community accountability, and honoring lineage we'll build a framework for intimate, safe conflict rather than destructive.

  • Flo (they/them/theirs) - Presenter

    I am bi or multi-racial and Brazilian Black and White who lives in the United States of America. My nationality is of South America in Brazil. The country that I reside in and/or my country of nationality has criminalized one or more of my identities. The land I live on and/or the land of my nationality has been stolen, colonized, under siege, or an active warzone in my lifetime. The following immigration and linguistic identities apply to me: immigrated as a child, English is not my first language, I am multi-lingual. I am non-binary; genderqueer, genderfluid, or gender expansive; queer; in non-monogamous relationship(s); and married by choice (legally). The following familial and caregiving identities apply to me: non-primary caregiver, raised by a single parent, raised by another family member. I am mildly impacted by the following disabilities: behavioral-, cognitive or learning-, communication-, intellectual or developmental-, mobility or balance-, physical-, sensory-, social-, and/or other- disability/condition; blind/low vision; chronic-, and/or mental- illness; and D/deaf or hard of hearing. I am neurodiverse. I am 25-35 years old. Spiritually I am Voodoo. Religiously I am a part of other religions. The following faiths I’m formerly connected to, such as through my family or culture: Catholic. I have the following financial disadvantage: Income is low but is enough. I have experienced the following major life disruptions: survivor of sexual assault, survivor of abuse/assault, survivor of an epidemic/pandemic, survivor of another traumatic situation, political/social unrest. I am/was a sex worker by choice.

    Flo Oliveira is a queer, polyam, Afro-Brasilian sex educator who loves helping others discover and exist as their most authentic and kinky selves. Flo's platform focuses on debunking sexual myths, normalizing pleasure, and holding space for deconstructing norms. Flo's Bachelor in Gender, Sexuality, and Women's studies, their Sex Certificate program, and their Master in Marriage and Family Therapy inform and support their work with clients worldwide.

    Whitewashing in Kink Spaces (Extended Access)
    Zoom
    Duration: 90 minutes
    Educators:
    Topic: Race
    Type: Community Discussion

    Description coming soon

  • Ginger Sparks (she/her/hers, they/them/theirs) - Presenter

    I am a bi- or multi-racial person and Indigenous who lives in The United States of America. My nationality is of The United States of America. The land I live on and/or the land of my nationality has been stolen, colonized, under siege, or an active warzone, but not in my lifetime. The following immigration and linguistic identities apply to me: no immediate immigration background, English is my only language. I am nonbinary, Two-Spirited or Indigiqueer (gender, sexuality), queer, single (by choice), and a relationship anarchist. The following familial and caregiving identities apply to me: never been a caregiver, raised by a single parent. I am seriously impacted by the following disabilities: chronic-, and mental illness/condition. I am neurodiverse. I am 36-45 years old. The following faith I’m formerly connected to, such as through my family or culture: Agnostic. I have the following financial disadvantages: income is low but is enough. I have experienced the following major life disruptions: homelessness/unhoused, survivor of sexual assault, survivor of abuse/assault. I am/was a sex worker (by choice).

    Ginger is an Indigenous service girl who gets into predicaments more often than not. As a disabled femme, she uses kink to navigate her capabilities and find pleasure through suffering. Ginger is the first Ms. SoCal Leather title holder and strives to represent queer femmes and dykes in spaces that are predominantly geared towards cis men.

    PDA and Obedience, or How I Learned to Say No Through Bratting (Extended Access)
    Zoom
    Duration: 90 minutes
    Educators:
    Topic: General BDSM, Kink Identities
    Type: Lecture/Presentation

    Pathological demand avoidance is an extreme avoidance of every day demands. As a service submissive, it's expected of me to follow protocols and requests. So how do I manage both? Bratting, and you can too! Let's talk through how consensual bratting can create a safe dynamic for submissives or bottoms to say no or act out our PDA while also having a safe space to give into orders. I will walk you through what my PDA looks like, how I use bratting to unmask in a world where I am expected to follow through with orders all day. And how having the space to say no gives room for letting go and having the autonomy to do what is requested of you by your top.

    Navigating Through Your Whiteness (Extended Access)
    Zoom
    Duration: 90 minutes
    Educators:
    Topic: Privilege at the Margins (theme), Race
    Type: Community Discussion

    This class explores the complex, often unspoken dynamics of white-passing privilege within kink spaces. Drawing from lived experience, cultural analysis, and community insight, we’ll unpack how proximity to whiteness can impact visibility, trust, desirability, and belonging—both in personal play and in public kink spaces. Through the 90 minute discussion, we will will examine how passing privilege centers white presenting kinksters and decenters BIPOC members. We’ll explore questions like: Who gets to be “safe” in a dungeon? Who gets believed when things go wrong? How can we use passing privilege to create more inclusive spaces without centering our whiteness? This is a space for accountability and white fragility needs to be set aside. Whether your white presenting or not, this is a space to share feelings, and collaborate on creating kink spaces that are inclusive and accessible for all who wish to participate.

  • Jardinero (he/him/his, they/them/theirs) - Demo Host, Panelist

    I am bi- or multi- racial and Black and Panamanian. The following immigration and linguistic identities apply to me: no immediate immigration background, English is my primary language. I am transgender; genderqueer, genderfluid, or gender expansive; pan- or poly- sexual/romantic; asexual/aromantic; queer; engaged; and in non-monogamous relationship(s). The following familial and caregiving identities apply to me: never been a caregiver, raised in a standard/nuclear family. I am seriously impacted by the following disabilities: behavioral-, communication-, sensory-, social- disability/condition, blind/low vision, mental illness/condition. I am mildly impacted by the following disability: blind/low vision. I am 25-35 years old. Spiritually I am Agnostic (liberal), Pagan/Wiccan (liberal), and other religions (liberal). Religiously I am Agnostic (liberal), Catholic, and other Christian religions. The following faiths I’m formerly connected to, such as through my family or culture: Catholic, other Christian Religions. I have the following financial disadvantages: income doesn’t consistently meet financial needs, unemployed. I have experienced the following major life disruptions: survivor of a natural disaster, survivor of an epidemic/pandemic, political/social unrest. Other identities I hold or circumstances that have disadvantaged me are listed in the anonymous identities page on the website.

    Jardinero identifies as queer, Afro-Latino, neurodivergent, polyamorous, and as most importantly “just a lil guy.” They love physical and mental bondage, impact, fear play, power exchange, most things to do with rope and just about anything that combines nerdy with kinky. He approaches kink with a background in martial arts, sword play, and forensic science which defines their particular creative brand of sadism.  They have been exploring power exchange for over 8 years and continue to try and grow themselves through new experiences and opportunities. Still newish to the concept of teaching, he loves an opportunity for collaboration and communal learning from all sides of slashes.

    Closing the Inter-age Dialogue (Extended Access)
    Zoom
    Duration: 90 minutes
    Topic: Age, Privilege at the Margins (theme)
    Type: Panel, Roundtable

    What is it like being the age that you are as a kinkster? How has age impacted your journey in kink? How does your age carry both privilege and marginalization within the scene? How can our spaces do better at including and supporting people of all ages? This panel discussion will bring together kinksters across the age spectrum to share perspectives and explore the impacts of age, aging, and ageism on kinky experience and community.

    Wet and Messy Play Demo
    Gather
    Duration: 75 minutes
    Educators:
    Topic: General BDSM, Physical Skills
    Type: Demo

    Wet and Messy play typically consists of engaging in substances that are “wet and messy,” also sometimes called sploshing. Frequently, though not always, this play involves food, mud, and chemicals (like slime). This type of play can involve having a particular substance dumped on you, or inside your clothing. Wet and Messy play almost never involves intentional play with bodily fluids. Join the Demo Dungeon in a display of Wet and Messy play. In order to respect this space as a dungeon, please keep all questions until the end. This demonstration of wet and messy play should be treated as a scene, regardless of the number of people watching and any engagement from the Demo-Host and Demo-Assistant.

  • Joshua Tenpenny (he/him/his) - Presenter

    I am a white person who lives in The United States of America. My nationality is of The United States of America. The land I live on and/or the land of my nationality has been stolen, colonized, under siege, or an active warzone, but not in my lifetime. The following immigration and linguistic identities apply to me: no immediate immigration background, English is my primary language. I am transgender, transmasculine, gay, asexual/aromantic, queer, in non-monogamous relationship(s), and in a committed lifetime partnership (without legal marriage). The following familial and caregiving identities apply to me: never been a caregiver, raised by divorced parents. I am seriously impacted by the following disabilities: behavioral, sensory, and social disabilities/conditions, and mental health illness/disability. I am mildly impacted by the following disabilities: cognitive or learning and communication disability/condition. I am neurodiverse. I am 36-45 years old. Spiritually I am Hindu and Pagan/Wiccan. Religiously I am Pagan/Wiccan. I have the following financial and educational disadvantages: income falls at or below the minimum wage, did not attend and/or complete university/college. In a kink setting, I am marginalized because I am a slave. I am/was a sex worker (by choice).

    Joshua Tenpenny has been in service to Raven Kaldera since 2004. He is Raven’s devoted assistant, partner, and slave for life. Josh is also a massage therapist, Shiatsu practitioner, and yoga teacher. The 2014 Northeast Slave titleholder, he and his master Raven Kaldera were chosen as the MAsT 2011 Presenters of the Year, and given the 2018 Jack McGeorge Excellence in Education award. He is the author of “Real Service” and the creator of the Service Notebook. He finds spiritual fulfillment through any kind of worthy service.

    Power Dynamic As Exoskeleton: Coping With Disability in A M/s Relationship (Extended Access)
    Zoom
    Duration: 90 minutes
    Topic: Accessibility/Disability, Power Exchange, Relationships
    Type: Class

    It’s not easy to cope with disability under any circumstances, but when you have to deal with physical limitations, it may seem like there’s no energy to spare for “traditional” M/s. After all, isn’t the erotica full of masters who are always tall, strong, healthy, and able to wrestle their slaves to the ground – not to mention beautiful, physically perfect slaves? How can it work with a slave who can’t kneel or a master who can’t do basic things for themselves? This class will discuss how to make it work in the face of all the obstacles. Not only can M/s work in the face of physical problems, it can become a kind of “exoskeleton” for the disabled partner, keeping them going in the face of all odds.

    The Ordeal Path: BDSM Spirituality (Extended Access)
    Zoom
    Duration: 90 minutes
    Topic: Spirituality
    Type: Lecture/Presentation

    From cultural ordeal rituals to monastic submission, the elements of BDSM have been part of people's spiritual lives for millennia. We'll explore the different ways one can incorporate these varied practices into your spiritual life, from sacred pain ordeals to cathartic ritual theater to an ethical and spiritual expression of submission and mastery. By the author of "Dark Moon Rising: Pagan BDSM".

  • Kalin from caringfor.space (they/them/theirs) - Presenter

    I am a white person who lives in Eastern Europe (including Russia) in Poland. My nationality is of Eastern Europe (including Russia) in Poland. The land I live on and/or the land of my nationality has been stolen, colonized, under siege, or an active warzone, but not in my lifetime. The following linguistic identities apply to me: English is not my first language, English is not my primary language, English is not my only language. I am transgender; nonbinary; genderqueer, genderfluid, or gender expansive; pan- or poly- sexual/romantic; queer; and in non-monogamous relationship(s). The following familial identities apply to me: raised by another family member, raised in a standard/nuclear family. I am seriously impacted by the following disabilities: behavioral-, cognitive or learning-, physical-, sensory- disabilities/conditions; and chronic-, mental- illnesses/conditions. I am mildly impacted by the following disabilities: communication-, social- disabilities/conditions. I am neurodiverse. I am 25-35 years old. Spiritually I am Agnostic and Atheistic. I have the following financial and educational disadvantages: financially supported by a family member, completed compulsory educaton through standardized testing (GED), did not attend and/or complete university/college. I have experienced the following major life disruptions: survivor of sexual assault, survivor of other traumatic situation, political/social unrest. In a kink setting, I am marginalized because of my fetish of queer people, especially androgynous, trans “chicks & NB with dicks,” and for my interest in puppy/wolf play. I have experience with an addiction challenge.

    Kalin, creator of caringfor.space and an experienced facilitator and activist focused on queer, feminist, and climate justice. As part of their intersectional activism, they develop workshops that explore emotions and foster healing from oppression. Emphasize group dynamics, vulnerability, and the nurturing aspects of community building. They’ve raised awareness on issues in Poland and Europe since 2015, organized educational camps, and supported marginalized communities.

    How I Overcame Sexual Trauma with Kink and Trust: A Relationship Experiment (Extended Access)
    Zoom
    Duration: 90 minutes
    Topic: Other Marginalization, Relationships
    Type: Workshop

    In this workshop, we want to share the results of many kinky sessions regarding overcoming sexual trauma. In a 2 years journey as a sexual and romantic relationship, we went through ups and downs following our aim to dissolve the trauma blockage. Apart from this, we want to give you new views on trauma. Train nervous system regulation tools and open space in which you can analyze and discuss your findings regarding trauma and kink. Content notes: trauma, sexual violence, child abuse, anal rape.

  • Kaybee (she/her/hers) - Panel Host, Presenter

    I am a white person and Jewish who lives in The United States of America. My nationality is of The United States of America. The country that I reside in and/or my country of nationality has criminalized one or more of my identities. The land I live on and/or the land of my nationality has been stolen, colonized, under siege, or an active warzone, but not in my lifetime. The following immigration and linguistic identities apply to me: first generation (child of immigrants), English is my only language. I am a cisgender woman, bi- or ambi- sexual/amorous, queer, in non-monogamous relationship(s), married by choice (legally), and widowed (partner died). The following familial and caregiving identities apply to me: former caregiver, raised in a standard/nuclear family. I am seriously impacted by the following disabilities: behavioral; mobility or balance; and physical disability/condition, and chronic illness; and mental illness/condition. I am neurodiverse. I am 46-55 years old and I am an Elder. Spiritually I am Agnostic, Atheist, and Pagan/Wiccan. The following faiths I’m formerly connected to, such as through my family or culture: Jewish. I have the following financial disadvantages: receives social services, welfare, public assistance, and/or social benefits. I have experienced the following major life disruptions: survivor or other traumatic situation. I am/was a sex worker, and a family member of a current/previous sex worker. I am a person of size.

    Kaybee has been active in the BDSM scene since 1998, in Chicago and beyond. A disabled bisexual switch and lifelong polyamorist, she has shown up for and within queer and kinky communities in a multitude of roles, including activist, educator, sex worker, leader and participant. With a professional background in art and education, and training as a Wiccan priestess, she brings a deep reservoir of knowledge and experience to kink education and leadership. She has presented at a range of events and venues, including Kink Between the Lines, Twisted Tryst, Kinky Kollege, LRA Chicago, and Trans CampOUT.

    Closing the Inter-age Dialogue (Extended Access)
    Zoom
    Duration: 90 minutes
    Topic: Age, Privilege at the Margins (theme)
    Type: Panel, Roundtable

    What is it like being the age that you are as a kinkster? How has age impacted your journey in kink? How does your age carry both privilege and marginalization within the scene? How can our spaces do better at including and supporting people of all ages? This panel discussion will bring together kinksters across the age spectrum to share perspectives and explore the impacts of age, aging, and ageism on kinky experience and community.

    Aging Kinksters Social
    Zoom
    Duration: 60 minutes
    Educators:
    Topic: Age
    Type: Social

    A Social space to address what it means to be aging in the BDSM Scene

  • Kitty Hermit (she/her/hers) - Presenter

    The identities I hold or circumstances that have disadvantaged me are listed in the anonymous identities page on the website.

    Kitty is a polyamorous, aromantic, sex-repulsed asexual kinkster, educator, and writer with over a decade of experience in alternative relationship structures and power exchange dynamics. As the voice behind Revolution Kitty, she blends sociopolitical commentary with personal storytelling to challenge assumptions about kink, autonomy, and identity. Kitty is passionate about making space for marginalized voices—especially asexual and aromantic experiences—in BDSM communities. Her background gives her a unique lens on how kink, power, and community intersect. Whether teaching, writing, or facilitating discussion, Kitty’s focus remains on inclusion, nuance, and dismantling harmful norms.

    A(ce)spects of Making Love (Extended Access)
    Zoom
    Duration: 90 minutes
    Educators:
    Topic: Sexuality
    Type: Class

    In this discussion, we will discuss the asexual and aromantic perspectives of interacting in romantic, platonic, and sexual relationships. Same and Mixed-orientation relationships manifest in many ways. How do we balance the normalcy of unsaid expectations still present in non-heteronormative dynamics? Can we normalize relational negotiations while still promoting spontaneity and organic bonding? What stereotypes do aroaces experiences that can inhibit their bonding and relational growth? This discussion is open to asexuals, aromantics, and allosexuals/alloromantics (non-ace/aro partners and allies).

  • Knotty Gal (she/her/hers) - Presenter

    I am a white person who lives in The United States of America. My nationality is of The United States of America. The country that I reside in and/or my country of nationality has criminalized one or more of my identities. The land I live on and/or the land of my nationality has been stolen, colonized, under siege, or an active warzone, but not in my lifetime. The following immigration and linguistic identities apply to me: no immediate immigration background, English is my primary language. I am a cisgender woman, queer, in non-monogamous relationship(s), and married by choice (legally). The following familial and caregiving identities apply to me: non-primary caregiver, raised in a standard/nuclear family. I am seriously impacted by the following disabilities: mental illness/condition, mobility/balance-; physical- disability/condition. I am mildly impacted by the following disabilities: chronic illness/condition. I am neurodiverse.]I am 25-35 years old. I liberally practice other religions. I have the following financial and educational disadvantages: receives (and reliant on) social services, welfare, public assistance, and/or social benefits. I have experienced the following major life disruptions: survivor of sexual assault, survivor of other traumatic situation.

    Knotty Gal is an introverted poly crip and cat loving queer with over five years of experience presenting playful and powerful classes for the kink community. KG has presented at Dark Odyssey, Rochester Erotic Arts Festival, and numerous kink groups around New York in the United States. As a gleeful sadomasochistic switch, Knotty Gal emphasizes creative outlooks on kink. She makes her classes accessible, fun, and participatory while teaching topics like rope, kink and chronic pain, and how to best utilize tiny hands in a scene.

    Achy Breaky Bod: Kink, Sex, and Chronic Pain (Extended Access)
    Zoom
    Duration: 90 minutes
    Educators:
    Topic: Accessibility/Disability, General BDSM
    Type: Class

    A kink in your neck putting a cramp in your scene? Come to this class to find out how someone with chronic pain can successfully plan fulfilling but still accessible scenes! We'll discuss mindfulness and chronic pain, communication skills around unique body needs, the role of pre-care and aftercare, and adaptive ways to play as a top and bottom. Come with questions and also suggestions to share!This class is for everyone--people with chronic pain, people who play with chronic pain peeps. Tops, bottoms, and solo-players.

  • Maeve McBride (she/her/hers, they/them/theirs) - Presenter

    I am a white person who lives in The United States of America. My nationality is of The United States of America. The country that I reside in and/or my country of nationality has criminalized one or more of my identities. The land I live on and/or the land of my nationality has been stolen, colonized, under siege, or an active warzone in my lifetime. The following immigration and linguistic identities apply to me: no immediate immigration background, English is my only language. I am genderqueer, genderfluid, or gender expansive; pan- or poly- sexual/romantic; demisexual/demiromantic; queer; in non-monogamous relationship(s); married by choice (legally); and separated. The following familial and caregiving identities apply to me: primary caregiver for another family member, raised by divorced parents, raised by more than 2 parents. I am seriously impacted by the following disabilities: chronic-; mental- illness/condition, cognitive/learning disability/condition. I am mildly impacted by the following disabilities: blind/low vision. I am neurodiverse. I am 36-45 years old. Spiritually I am Pagan/Wiccan, and other religions. I have the following financial and educational disadvantages: income is low, but enough for me. I have experienced the following major life disruptions: survivor of sexual assault, survivor of abuse/assault, survivor of other traumatic situation. I am/was a sex worker (by choice). I am a person of size.

    Maeve McBride is a kink and Ethical Non-Monogamy educator, erotic coach, sexological herbalist, event producer, and the Executive Director of KinkFest 2025. With over 22 years of experience, she has explored the intersections of kink, sacred sexuality, plant medicine, trauma, and personal transformation. A playful, sensual, and compassionate switch-witch, Maeve helps people of all backgrounds pursue their unique health, erotic, and sexual goals. Her approach blends evidence-based teaching, anatomy geekery, goal setting, trauma-informed mind-body healing, communication tools, and a spirit of curiosity and exploration. She works to foster a non-judgmental learning environment where individuals can build a personalized toolkit to support their pleasure, empowerment, and authentic expression.

    But I’m a Parent!: Navigating a Kinky Life While Also Raising Little Humans (Extended Access)
    Zoom
    Duration: 90 minutes
    Educators:
    Topic: Familial
    Type: Lecture/Presentation

    Getting your needs met while also meeting the needs of your little humans can often be at odds. This class will discuss creative strategies and resources to getting your kink on and balancing the demands of parenthood and other relationships. We will discuss time management, privacy, sex-positive parenting, building community, creative family-friendly storage solutions for your kink gear, suggestions of what to do if found in a compromising position by your offspring, and much much more.

  • Master Taíno (he/him/his) - Panelist

    I am a Person of Color and Hispanic or Latino/Latina/Latinx and Puerto RIcan (Spaniard, Taino indigenous, African, Basque) who lives in Central America or the Caribbean (including Mexico) in Costa RIca. My nationality is of the United States of America. The land I live on and/or the land of my nationality has been stolen, colonized, under siege, or an active warzone in my lifetime. The following immigration and linguistic identities apply to me: immigrated as an adult, English is not my first language, English is not my primary language, I am multi-lingual. I am a cisgender man, gay, pan- or poly-sexual/romantic, and single (by choice). The following familial identity applies to me: raised in a standard/nuclear family. I am mildly impacted by the following disabilities: D/deaf or Hard of Hearing. I am 66-75 years old and I am an Elder. The following faiths I’m formerly connected to, such as through my family or culture: Catholic (liberal). In a kink setting, I am marginalized for my interest in Master/slave relationships and age gap relationships.

    Master Taíno has been active in the Leather community for four decades. He has a Leather Family of 17 members. Slave Paul has been in his service since 2010. He founded MTTA, Inc., a non-profit organization that runs MTTA Academy, the annual Master/slave Conference (MsC), MsC Worldwide, among other programs. During recent years, he has been devoted to the growing kink community in Costa Rica where he has a second residence. He is the author of a book "Kinky Tales: Real stories of my Leather Journey". The book includes 38 stories from "Kinky Childhood" to "Leather Grandpa". He has been honored with several awards including the National LGBTQ Task Force’s “Leather Leadership Award 2022, the “Guy Baldwin Master/slave Heritage Award 2019”, the Vi Johnson Award at Black Beat 2012, the Pantheon of Leather’s “Man of the Year 2011 Award”, and the “Master Steve Golden Paintbrush Award 2011”.

    Closing the Inter-age Dialogue (Extended Access)
    Zoom
    Duration: 90 minutes
    Topic: Age, Privilege at the Margins (theme)
    Type: Panel, Roundtable

    What is it like being the age that you are as a kinkster? How has age impacted your journey in kink? How does your age carry both privilege and marginalization within the scene? How can our spaces do better at including and supporting people of all ages? This panel discussion will bring together kinksters across the age spectrum to share perspectives and explore the impacts of age, aging, and ageism on kinky experience and community.

  • Mistress Jaiyde (she/her/hers) - Demo Host, Presenter

    I am a Person of Color and Black who lives in the United States of America. My nationality is of the United States of America. The following immigration and linguistic identities apply to me: no immediate immigration background, English is my only language. I am a cisgender woman, pan- or poly- sexual/amorous, and single (by choice). The following familial and caregiving identities apply to me: never been a caregiver, raised by a single parent. I am seriously impacted by the following disability: blind/low vision. I am 25-35 years old. Religiously I am a part of other Christian religions. I have the following financial disadvantages: income is at or below the poverty line; and receives social services, welfare, public assistance, and/or social benefits.

    Mistress Jaiyde is passionate about the disability/LGBTQ communities, mental health, homelessness among LGBTQ youth, and alternative lifestyles. Born in Ohio and completely blind, she has never allowed her disability to hinder her. Jaiyde is the author of nine books within the genres of erotic and LGBTQ romance, containing themes of disability representation, tough subjects, and happily ever afters. She is also the founder of #DisabledAndKinky, a virtual community of enthusiasts who are passionate about disability and alternative lifestyles. In her free time, Jaiyde can be found reading, creating/listening to music, cooking/baking, or watching soap operas/cartoons. Her motto is ”inability, not disability”.

    Impact Play 101: A Blind Top’s Perspective (Extended Access)
    Zoom
    Duration: 90 minutes
    Educators:
    Topic: Accessibility/Disability, General BDSM, Physical Skills
    Type: Lecture/Presentation

    Impact play is a consensual BDSM activity that involves hitting/striking another human being. Many people use this form of play for sexual gratification or in power exchange, but others use it for different reasons, including connection and catharsis. Examples of this include slapping, punching, kicking, spanking, caning, and flogging. This is a beginners guide to impact play, and a core pillar of BDSM is safety. Topics will include but are not limited to: the definition of impact play, anatomy of the human body and safety/first aid, impact play techniques, and how to create an impact play scene. I will also share my experiences as a blind player and dominant. My hope is that students will learn valuable skills, gain knowledge, and have fun—I mean, what is life without laughter and smiles?

    Impact Play Demo
    Gather
    Duration: 75 minutes
    Educators:
    Topic: Accessibility/Disability, Physical Skills
    Type: Demo

    Impact play, simply put, is hitting another person; but there’s much more skill involved. Some impact comes with implements such as floggers, canes, or whips. Some impact is with bare hands; such as spanking, punching, or kicking. Join the Demo Dungeon in a display of Impact. In order to respect this space as a dungeon, please keep all questions until the end. This demonstration of impact should be treated as a scene, regardless of the number of people watching and any engagement from the Demo-Host and Demo-Assistant.

  • Ms_Kitten_ (she/her/hers) - Presenter

    The identities I hold or circumstances that have disadvantaged me are listed in the anonymous identities page on the website.

    Ms_Kitten_ is both a performer and educator with a passion for healthy exploration of sexual identity and relationships. While spending time in different areas of kink she has a lifetime of perspective. A passionate photographer and needle artist her love of the human form can be seen in all her work. One of the things she is most passionate about is sharing and mutual aid that helps strengthen our local communities, so where possible she tries to pass along knowledge and skills she has learned as so many have done before her.

    Accountability Starts with Self
    Zoom
    Duration: 90 minutes
    Educators:
    Topic: Community, General BDSM, Privilege at the Margins (theme)
    Type: Class

    In a world where accountability often feels like a buzzword, this class invites you to take a hard look in the mirror and embrace the power of self-reflection. "Accountability Starts with Self" is a thought-provoking and deeply engaging workshop designed to inspire personal growth and foster genuine accountability in all areas of your life. This class is not for the faint of heart; it is intentionally designed to trigger introspection and challenge your current perspectives. Through guided discussions, dynamic activities, and reflective exercises, participants will explore the essential steps toward taking responsibility for their actions, decisions, and outcomes. You will be encouraged to confront uncomfortable truths and engage in meaningful dialogue about your experiences, beliefs, and behaviors. While this journey may be challenging, it is also profoundly rewarding.

    Sensational Sharps Demo
    Gather
    Duration: 75 minutes
    Educators:
    Topic: General BDSM, Physical Skills
    Type: Demo

    Sharps play, as might be obvious, encompasses play with sharp objects. This can be through needles as well as knives and other sharps. Sharps can be used as a physical implementation as well as in fear-play, medical play, and more. Join the Demo Dungeon in a display of sharps. In order to respect this space as a dungeon, please keep all questions until the end. This demonstration of sharps play should be treated as a scene, regardless of the number of people watching and any engagement from the Demo-Host and Demo-Assistant.

  • Mx.Lore (fae/faer/faers, she/her/hers, they/them/theirs) - Presenter

    I am a Person of Color and Black who lives in the United States of America. My nationality is of the United States of America. The land I live on and/or the land of my nationality has been stolen, colonized, under siege, or an active warzone, but not in my lifetime. The following linguistic identity applies to me: English is my primary language. I am genderqueer, genderfluid, or gender expansive; pan- or poly- sexual/romantic; queer; and in non-monogamous relationship(s). The following familial and caregiving identities apply to me: primary caregiver for non-adult children, raised by a single parent, raised by divorced parents. I am seriously impacted by the following disabilities: blind/low vision, chronic-, mental- illness, and physical disability/condition. I am mildly impacted by the following disabilities: behavioral-, cognitive/learning-, communication-, mobility/balance-, sensory-, social-, and/or other disability/condition, and D/deaf or Hard of Hearing. I am neurodiverse. I am 25-35 years old. Spiritually I am Buddhist, Pagan/Wiccan, and Voodoo. The following faiths I’m formerly connected to, such as through my family or culture: other Christian Religions. I have the following financial and educational disadvantages: income doesn’t consistently meet financial needs; income falls at or below the poverty line; receives social services, welfare, public assistance, and/or social benefits; did not attend and/or complete university/college. I have experienced the following major life disruptions: survivor of sexual assault, survivor of abuse/assault, survivor of an epidemic/pandemic. I am/was a sex worker (by choice), and the partner of a sex worker. I am a person of size.

    Sunflower Lore is a dedicated sexual health educator and advocate specializing in kink-affirming practices. With a decade long background in SW, 8 of those HSV+ has been instrumental in promoting comprehensive, inclusive, and pleasure-positive education. Their work emphasizes consent, safety, and empowerment within diverse sexual communities. I will continue aiming to dismantle stigma and foster open, informed discussions surrounding Kink, SW, and Herpes.

    Breaking the Stigma: Sexually Transmitted Infections, Disclosure, and Sexy Confidence in BIPOC Communities and the Sex Industry (Extended Access)
    Zoom
    Duration: 90 minutes
    Educators:
    Topic: Other Marginalization, Race, Sexuality
    Type: Lecture/Presentation

    In a world where sexual health stigma disproportionately impacts BIPOC communities, those working in the sex industry, and especially those who are both, open and empowered conversations are crucial. This session will break down the myths around sexually transmitted infections (STIs), offering honest guidance on disclosure, navigating relationships, and maintaining confidence and desirability. Together, we’ll explore the intersection of race, sex work, and sexual health, centering resilience, community care, and self-empowerment. Participants will leave with practical strategies for disclosure, self-advocacy tools, and a renewed sense of sexy confidence.

  • Naughtiiie (he/him/his, she/her/hers, they/them/theirs) - Event Host

    I am a white person who lives in Western Europe in Ireland. My nationality is of Western Europe in Germany. The following immigration and linguistic identities apply to me: immigrated as an adult, English is not my first language, I am multi-lingual, English is my primary language. I am genderqueer, genderfluid or gender expansive; a lesbian; bi- or ambi- sexual/amorous; asexual/aromantic; and in non-monogamous relationship(s). The following familial and caregiving identities apply to me: never been a caregiver, raised by divorce parents. I am seriously impacted by the following disabilities: behavioral disability/condition, mental illness/condition. I am mildly impacted by the following disabilities: cognitive/learning-, sensory-, social- disability/condition. I am neurodiverse. I am 25-35 years old. Spiritually I am Atheistic. The following faiths I’m formerly connected to, such as through my family or culture: Protestant. I have the following financial and educational disadvantages: income is low but enough, did not attend and/or complete university/college.

    Naughtiiie has been on the scene for a little over 2 years. Their Journey into kink has at the same time been a journey of introspection and self-discovery. They are very engaged in their local scene on all sides of the slashes, as teacher, student, mod and event organizer. The kink community is the first place they've really felt seen and appreciated for who they are, and not just what they have to offer, and they want to carry this on to make others feel just as welcome as they did when they first entered into this world.

    Reading Between the Sheets: A Community Lounge
    Gather
    Duration: 75 minutes
    Educators:
    Topic: General BDSM
    Type: Lounge

    More and more, BDSM is finding its way into the mainstream. Many kink-inclined individuals discover this world through popular media in TV and Books - think 'The Secretary', 'Shades of Grey', 'Bonding' 'Babygirl'. While some may argue that, as a whole, this is a positive development, we should take a critical look at what kinds of dynamics these media depict. Let's have this talk together, exchange book recommendations, and discuss how we would like to see the depiction of kink in popular media develop.

  • Nishita Raghu Rao (she/her/hers) - Event Host, Presenter

    I am a Person of Color and Asian and Indian, Pakistani, and Bangladeshi who lives in Asia (excluding the Middle East) in India. My nationality is of Asia (excluding the Middle East) in India. The country that I reside in and/or my country of nationality has criminalized one or more of my identities. The land I live on and/or the land of my nationality has been stolen, colonized, under siege, or an active warzone, but not in my lifetime. The following immigration and linguistic identities apply to me: visa holder (non-immigrant alien), English is not my first language, English is not my primary language, I learned English as an adult, I am multi-lingual. I am a cisgender woman; queer; exploring, curious, or questioning my sexuality; and married by choice (legally). The following familial and caregiving identities apply to me: non-primary caregiver, raised by more than two parents, raised by another family member, raised by non-blood family members. I am seriously impacted by the following disabilities: behavioral-, social- disability, mental illness/condition and blind/low vision. I am mildly impacted by the following disability: mobility/balance disability/condition. I am 25-35 years old. Spiritually I am Agnostic and Pagan/Wiccan. Religiously I am Atheistic. The following faiths I’m formerly connected to, such as through my family or culture: Buddhist, Hindu, and other religions. I have the following financial disadvantages: income doesn’t consistently meet financial needs, income falls at or below the minimum wage, income is at or below the poverty line, currently unemployed, not legally allowed to work. I have experienced the following major life disruptions: survivor of sexual assault, survivor of abuse/assault, political/social unrest. In a kink setting, I am marginalized for my interest in urolagnia, somnophilia, and flatulophilia. I am a person of size.

    Nishita Rao is the first Indian AASECT CSE, with a background in Behavioral Neuroendocrinology (MS Neuroscience) and Genetics (BE Biotechnology). Her current research delves into post-colonial imprints on human social and sexual attitudes; Sex Worker Dance Ethnography across Belly dance, Sadir, Bharatanatyam, Mohiniyatam, Kathak and Kathakalli; and Ethnomusicology focussed on linguistic pedagogy embedded in Tantric Carnatic compositions. She is a Reiki Grandmaster, Carnatic Music Therapist and a Mandala Art Therapist, weaving Eastern & Western approaches into her neurobehavioral trauma healing platform— Soul Sync Sanctuary. She is a curator for the Sex Scholar Library, centering BIPOC sex education literature. In her free time, she also shows up as a writer, poet, artist, singer, activist and a social anarchist.

    The Neuroscience of Pain and Pleasure: An Exploration into BDSM (Extended Access)
    Zoom
    Duration: 90 minutes
    Topic: General BDSM
    Type: Lecture/Presentation

    BDSM offers a unique lens through which to examine the neuroscience of pain and pleasure. While pain is traditionally seen as a negative stimulus and pleasure as a positive one, BDSM disrupts this binary, showing how pain can be pleasurable and how power dynamics influence neurochemical responses. This class will explore the neurobiological, psychological, and evolutionary underpinnings of BDSM experiences, examining how pain interacts with the brain’s reward, pleasure, and stress systems. The lecture will cover the following:

    1. role of the spinothalamic tract and periaqueductal gray (PAG) in nociception (pain perception)
    2. different types of pain and pain sensitivities
    3. in-built pain modulating systems (ex: endogenous opioids)
    4. dopamine system in reward pathways
    5. endocannabinoids during orgasm
    6. adrenaline and its role in arousal
    7. oxytocin and vasopressin during recovery
    8. dissociation, pain fog and reduced pre-frontal cortex activity and its role in subspace
    Sexploration Quest: Cummence Your Journey!
    Gather
    Duration: 75 minutes
    Topic: Race, Sexuality
    Type: Event

    💦Featuring BIPOC +/- Kink Narratives💫 Welcome to the Sexploration Quest, where we push the boundaries of desire, uncover the taboo, and explore all the shades of kink. Today, we dive deep into pleasure, power, and play, through the eyes of BIPOC storytellers. Whether you're a novice or a seasoned explorer, this is the night to be unapologetically open and curious about sex, kink, and everything in between. 🍑 THE QUEST BEGINS...This isn’t just any storytelling night—it’s an adventure of hot, raw, and authentic erotic journeys. We’ve got categories that will tease your senses and keep your heart racing all night long: 💡 HOW IT WORKS:✨ Arrive, get comfy, and grab a drink to set the mood. ✨ We’re keeping it safe, consensual, and hot—zero judgment, all celebration. ✨ Storytellers get 5-7 minutes to share. We'll rotate through the categories, keeping the heat high and the vibes flowing. 🔥 Come ready to explore. Leave with new insights. And let’s make this night unforgettable. 🔥

  • Princess (it/it/its) - Presenter

    I am bi- or multi- racial who is Black, Latine, African American and Puerto Rican who lives in the United states of America. My nationality is of the United States of America. The country that I reside in and/or my country of nationality has criminalized one or more of my identities. The land I live on and/or the land of my nationality has been stolen, colonized, under siege, or an active warzone, but not in my lifetime. The following immigration and linguistic identities apply to me: child of an immigrant, English is my only language. I am agender, queer, single (not by choice), and in non-monogamous relationship(s. The following familial and caregiving identities apply to me: non-primary caregiver, former adopted child, raised by another family member, raised in a standard/nuclear family. I am seriously impacted by the following disabilities: cognitive/learning-, intellectual/developmental-, disability, mental illness/condition. I am neurodiverse. I am 25-35 years old. The following faiths I’m formerly connected to, such as through my family or culture: Protestant. I have the following financial disadvantages: income doesn’t consistently meet financial needs; income falls at or below the minimum wage; receives social services, welfare, public assistance, and/or social benefits. I have experienced the following major life disruptions: survivor of sexual assault, survivor of other traumatic situation. In a kink setting, I am marginalized for my interest in age play. I am/was a sex worker, the partner of a sex worker. I am a person of size and have experience with an addiction challenge.

    Princess is a right side of the slash residing leather dyke, doll, information source, pet, ageplayer and service oriented thing. A reaction junkie, sadomasochist, and Aries it’s been fiery force within the community, as well as a connoisseur of things like electricity, ageplay, service and the subtle nuances of melanated physical masochism. It has provided education both in person + virtually as a demo bottom, panelist, and presenter in addition to have founded The Service Circle and Co-Founded the Midwest Equine Alliance. Through it all has it remained very much like its name a princess.

    “I can’t help it that I’m popular” (Extended Access)
    Zoom
    Duration: 90 minutes
    Educators:
    Topic: Community, Privilege at the Margins (theme)
    Type: Community Discussion

    Ever wonder why certain folks have huge fetlife followings? Or why certain folks in your local community seem to always get hit up for play? Do you ever just sit back and wonder "how in the heck did they get so popular?"?  Well then please join Princess at the intersection (because intersectionality is important!) of Desirability and Politics for a guided discussion about pretty privilege, intersectionality, desirability politics, and their relation to marginalized identities in the community.

  • Puffy the Pixie (she/her/hers, they/them/theirs) - Presenter, Social Host

    I am a Person of Color and Black who lives in the United States of America. My nationality is of the United States of America. The following immigration and linguistic identities apply to me: no immediate immigration background, English is my primary language. I am a cisgender woman, pan- or poly- sexual/romantic, asexual/aromantic, demisexual/demiromantic, queer, in non-monogamous relationship(s), married (by choice, legally), a relationship anarchist, and separated. The following familial and caregiving identities apply to me: former caregiver, raised in a standard/nuclear family. I am neurodiverse. I am 36-45 years old. Spiritually and religiously, I practice Indigenous or Native traditions (liberal). The following faiths I’m formerly connected to, such as through my family or culture: Protestant, other Christian religions. I have experienced the following major life disruptions: survivor of sexual assault, survivor of abuse/assault.

    Puffy is a dynamic educator, coach, and mentor whose work centers on authenticity, communication, and embodied exploration in relationships and sexuality. With a focus on conscious kink, alternative relationship models, and sex-positive practices, Puffy invites individuals and communities into deeper connection with themselves and others through curiosity, play, and radical honesty. Holding both a BA and MA in Psychology and certified in Trauma-Informed Care, Puffy brings academic grounding alongside lived experience as a queer, a-spec, polyamorous kinkster. Currently pursuing certification in Relationship, Sex & Intimacy Coaching, they are passionate about creating inclusive spaces where learning and pleasure go hand in hand. Puffy has been openly polyamorous for over four years and active as a leader and facilitator in the conscious kink community for three, offering insight, guidance, and an open invitation to explore new possibilities in love, desire, and connection.

    Always On: A Connection Space for Military & First Responders
    Gather
    Duration: 75 minutes
    Educators:
    Topic: Other Marginalization
    Type: Lounge

    This social hour is dedicated to military and first responder professionals—those who are often “on duty” even when off the clock. In this space, we invite you to intentionally power down and reconnect with yourself and your peers. While this is not a structured or guided session, your host will provide optional resources and simple exercises focused on relaxation, self-care, and nervous system regulation—tools to help ease the high-alert state so common in our work. Come as you are, take what you need, and connect with others who understand the weight of always being “on.”

    I am Daddy: An Exploration of Self-Collaring (Extended Access)
    Zoom
    Duration: 90 minutes
    Educators:
    Topic: Kink Identities
    Type: Lecture/Presentation

    Collaring has long held deep meaning in kink and BDSM communities — often symbolizing ownership, devotion, and connection between Dominants and submissives. But what about when the collar is placed by one’s own hand? Self-collaring has emerged as a personal and often radical ritual of reclaiming power, setting boundaries, and defining self-worth. This session explores self-collaring not just as an alternative to partnered dynamics, but as a meaningful practice in its own right — one that can coexist with relationships of all kinds. Whether single, solo, partnered, or somewhere in between, individuals are using self-collaring to affirm their autonomy, embody personal power, and honor their commitments to self. Especially relevant for those navigating healing from codependency, complex relationship histories, or identity formation, self-collaring offers a way to say “I am Daddy” — not as a role given, but one claimed.

  • Queen Ana Blue (she/her/hers) - Presenter

    I am a Person of Color and Black who lives in the United States of America. My nationality is of the United States of America. The following immigration and linguistic identities apply to me: no immediate immigration background, English is my primary language. I am bi- or ambi- gender, pan- or poly- sexual/romantic, queer, in non-monogamous relationship(s) and married by choice (legally). The following familial and caregiving identities apply to me: former caregiver, former foster child. I am 36-45 years old. I have the following financial disadvantage: income doesn’t consistently meet financial needs. I am/was a sex worker (by choice). I am a person of size.

    It isn’t easy being a Queen but Queen Ana Blue has the spirt of one through and through. She describes herself as a Black, Pansexual, Ethical Non-Monogamous, Kinky, Leather, Sadomasochistic, BDSM and sex educator, Pro Dominatrix, Top Heavy Lifestyle Switch, who could eat seafood and tacos everyday. She is now based in the Mid-West, originally from California, but travels all over teaching, speaking, and spanking. You can catch one of Queen Ana Blue’s workshops or sessions either in-person, over the phone on a call, through text, and virtually. Queen Ana Blue is a proud advocate for kink safety, kink education, sex work, and diversity in kink. She believes we are all life-long students and that every leader in the community has the responsibility to be good examples and to always give assistance those in the community who need help.

    They Not Like Us! No My Skin is Not Like Yours! Let’s Talk About How to Play! (Extended Access)
    Zoom
    Duration: 90 minutes
    Educators:
    Topic: Physical Skills, Race
    Type: Class

    “Sticks and stones may break our bones, but my skin don’t bruise the same as yours.” Have you ever taken an impact class and the instructor talks about the skin upon impact will start to turn pink, red, and maybe even purple and blue? If you are melanated, have you ever played with someone who was not and they kept hitting you over and over, harder and harder because they wanted your skin to turn pink and red? It is important that we have discussions on playing with people with different skin types. We will also talk about the expectations of the D-Type and the S-Type from impact play.

  • Raven Kaldera (he/him/his) - Panelist, Presenter

    I am a white person who live is the United States of America. My nationality is of the United States of America. The country that I reside in and/or my country of nationality has criminalized one or more of my identities. The following linguistic identity applies to me: English is my primary language. I am transgender, pan- or poly- sexual/romantic, queer, in non-monogamous relationship(s), married not by choice (legally), in a committed lifetime partnership (without legal marriage), and widowed/partner died. The following familial and caregiving identities apply to me: former caregiver, runaway/homeless youth, raised in a standard/nuclear family. I am seriously impacted by the following disabilities: chronic-, mobility/balance-, physical-, and social- disability/condition; and other disability/condition (Tourette Syndrome). I am mildly impacted by the following disabilities: behavioral-, cognitive/learning-, communication-, intellectual/developmental-, and sensory- disability/condition; blind/low vision, D/deaf or Hard of Hearing, and mental illness/condition. I am neurodiverse. I am 56-65 years old and I am an Elder. Religiously I am pagan/Wiccan (traditional). I have the following financial and educational disadvantages: income doesn’t consistently meet my needs, income is below the minimum wage, income is below the poverty line, completed compulsory education through standardized testing (GED), and did not attend/complete university/college. I have experienced the following major life disruptions: homelessness/unhoused, survivor of abuse/assault. In a kink setting, I am marginalized because I participate in TPE (Total Power Exchange) M/s. I am the partner of a sex worker.

    Raven Kaldera is a queer FTM transgendered intersexual shaman. He is the author/editor of 46 books, including “Mastering the Art of Mastery”, and “Power Circuits: Polyamory In A Power Dynamic”. He and his slaveboy Joshua have been teaching and presenting workshops regularly for many years to the BDSM, Neo-Pagan, Sex/Spirituality, transgender, and other communities. Raven is the 2014 Northeast Master titleholder, and he lives with his poly family on a homestead in Massachusetts. ’Tis an ill wind that blows no minds.

    Closing the Inter-age Dialogue (Extended Access)
    Zoom
    Duration: 90 minutes
    Topic: Age, Privilege at the Margins (theme)
    Type: Panel, Roundtable

    What is it like being the age that you are as a kinkster? How has age impacted your journey in kink? How does your age carry both privilege and marginalization within the scene? How can our spaces do better at including and supporting people of all ages? This panel discussion will bring together kinksters across the age spectrum to share perspectives and explore the impacts of age, aging, and ageism on kinky experience and community.

    Power Dynamic As Exoskeleton: Coping With Disability in A M/s Relationship (Extended Access)
    Zoom
    Duration: 90 minutes
    Topic: Accessibility/Disability, Power Exchange, Relationships
    Type: Class

    It’s not easy to cope with disability under any circumstances, but when you have to deal with physical limitations, it may seem like there’s no energy to spare for “traditional” M/s. After all, isn’t the erotica full of masters who are always tall, strong, healthy, and able to wrestle their slaves to the ground – not to mention beautiful, physically perfect slaves? How can it work with a slave who can’t kneel or a master who can’t do basic things for themselves? This class will discuss how to make it work in the face of all the obstacles. Not only can M/s work in the face of physical problems, it can become a kind of “exoskeleton” for the disabled partner, keeping them going in the face of all odds.

    The Ordeal Path: BDSM Spirituality (Extended Access)
    Zoom
    Duration: 90 minutes
    Topic: Spirituality
    Type: Lecture/Presentation

    From cultural ordeal rituals to monastic submission, the elements of BDSM have been part of people's spiritual lives for millennia. We'll explore the different ways one can incorporate these varied practices into your spiritual life, from sacred pain ordeals to cathartic ritual theater to an ethical and spiritual expression of submission and mastery. By the author of "Dark Moon Rising: Pagan BDSM".

  • Rose (he/him/his, it/it/its, she/her/hers, they/them/theirs) - Panelist

    I am a bi- or multi-racial person and Black, White, Chinese, and Native Hawaiian who lives in the United States of America. My nationality is of the United States of America. The land I live on and/or the land of my nationality has been stolen, colonized, under siege, or an active warzone in my lifetime. The following immigration and linguistic identities apply to me: no immediate immigration background, English is my only language. I am transgender; nonbinary; genderqueer, genderfluid, or gender expansive; pan- or poly- sexual/romantic; demisexual/demiromantic; engaged; and in non-monogamous relationship(s). The following familial and caregiving identities apply to me: never been a caregiver, raised in a standard/nuclear family. I am seriously impacted by the following disabilities: behavioral-, communication-, intellectual or developmental-, sensory-, and social- disabilities/conditions, blind/low vision, mental illness/condition. I am mildly impacted by the following disabilities: chronic illness/condition, and mobility/balance disability/condition. I am neurodiverse. I am 25-35 years old. Spiritually I am Pagan/Wiccan (liberal). Religiously I am Agnostic (liberal), and participate in other Christian religions (liberal). The following faiths I’m formerly connected to, such as through my family or culture: other Christian religions. I have the following financial and educational disadvantages: receives social services, welfare, public assistance, and/or social benefits; income is low but enough. I have experienced the following major life disruptions: survivor of abuse/assault, survivor of an epidemic/pandemic, survivor of other traumatic situation. I am a person of size, and have experience with an addiction challenge. Other identities I hold or circumstances that have disadvantaged me are listed in the anonymous identities page on the website.

    A social work student with a love for teaching and a passion for power dynamics, Rose is thrilled to have this opportunity to share their knowledge and learn from their community. Rose is a mixed-race, queer, collared, polyamorous switch who has been exploring kink both publicly and privately for several years.

  • Yingjia Fu (she/her/hers) - Presenter

    I am a Person of Color and Asian, identifying as Chinese who lives in Western Europe in Belgium. My nationality is of Western Europe in Belgium. The land I live on and/or the land of my nationality has been stolen, colonized, under siege, or an active warzone, but not in my lifetime. The following immigration and linguistic identities apply to me: immigrated as a child, first generation (child of immigrants), English is not my first language, English is not my primary language. I am a cisgender woman, heterosexual/straight, and single (by choice). The following familial and caregiving identities apply to me: former caregiver, raised by divorced parents. I am seriously impacted by the following disabilities: behavioral and sensory disability/condition; and chronic illness/condition. I am mildly impacted by the following disabilities: mental illness and social disability/condition. I am neurodiverse. I am 36-45 years old and I am an Elder. I have the following financial disadvantages: currently unemployed, receives social services/welfare/public assistance and/or social benefits, income is low but is enough. I have experienced the following major life disruptions: survivor of other traumatic situation, survivor of generational and cultural trauma. I am a person of size.

    Yingjia is a curious neuro-spicy daredevil. She was born in Shanghai and raised in Belgium. Her mission as kink educator is reconnecting adults with the joy of play. By doing this, she puts more authenticity and joy in the world. Yingjia is happiest when she can be and express herself. Therefore, in 2020, she left the corporate life and built her own practice in kink education & sex positive counseling. In her work, she focuses on kink & bdsm education combined with psycho-emotional education. She is committed to increasing awareness around mental health for kinksters. Yingjia takes great efforts to create a trauma-informed safe space for her clients. In her practice and in her interactions with her clients she applies the following values: authenticity, respect, agency, and transparency.

    High intellectual potential people and kink (Extended Access)
    Zoom
    Duration: 90 minutes
    Educators:
    Topic: General BDSM
    Type: Class

    High giftedness in adults refers to an above-average IQ and EQ. Approximately 2-3% of the population falls into this category. However, high intellectual potential (HIP) is not just about IQ and EQ: It includes deep curiosity, fast learning, and strong problem-solving skills. HIP's often excel in their fields but may struggle with perfectionism, overthinking, and feeling misunderstood. Their intense emotions and deep thinking can lead to anxiety or impostor syndrome. As a HIP myself I have noticed I have found that HIp's feel at home in the kink communities.This class will cover the following topics:- how do you know if you are HIP?- What are the HIP talents that are beneficial for kinksters- what are the pitfalls and how to manage them.

  • naro (she/her/hers) - Presenter

    The identities I hold or circumstances that have disadvantaged me are listed in the anonymous identities page on the website.

    naro is a slave, a Navy veteran and a lover of service. A Nuyorican, Reiki Practioner, and Reverned, all of which have contributed to her love of community and SERVICE. her deepest desire is to support BIPoC people as they decolonize and reconnect with themselves: body, mind & Spirit. her love for the community has motivated her to collect books and information on the BDSM, Leather, & Kink communities. Her public BDSM debut in 2016 at Club X San Diego. Ritual Steel was a deeply spiritual event that motivated her to get out of her shell. She has led several CA based online kink education groups. For three years naro was a core member of the Limitless Luxe Lifestyle LLC. serving as the editor-in-chief of the education manuals, lead of education & service, where she trained over 80 littler letters and collectively produced four successful FEDs. Naro is a member of About Face Veterans and is currently serving Leather Solidarity Collective and the Dark Lair.

    Standing in Boots: Being Present & Accountable During Conflict (Extended Access)
    Zoom
    Duration: 90 minutes
    Topic: Connection, Other Marginalization
    Type: Class

    Conflict is not the enemy; disconnection is. When we approach strife as a sacred messenger, we honor the spirit of Leather itself and the values we chose to walk in. This workshop adapts Sobonfu Somé's 'The Spirit of Intimacy' to guide us in transforming disagreements into opportunities for deeper connection. Creating a counter culture that prioritizing productive resolution over personal comfort, standing in our boots is being present and accountable when situations get uncomfortable. By drawing from both Somé's teachings and Leather culture's principles of ritual, power exchange, community accountability, and honoring lineage we'll build a framework for intimate, safe conflict rather than destructive.

  • sassafras patterdale (they/them/theirs) - Presenter, Social Host

    I am a white person who lives in The United States of America. My nationality is of The United States of America. The country that I reside in and/or my country of nationality has criminalized one or more of my identities. The following immigration and linguistic identities apply to me: no immediate immigration background, English is my only language. I am transgender, nonbinary, genderqueer/genderfluid/ gender expansive, queer, and in non-monogamous relationship(s). The following familial and caregiving identities apply to me: never been a caregiver, former runaway and/or homeless youth. I am 36-45 years old. Religiously I am a part of other Christian religions. I have experienced the following major life disruptions: homelessness/unhoused, survivor of sexual assault, abuse/assault, and other traumatic situation. In a kink setting, I am marginalized because I am a little. I am a person of size.

    sassafras patterdale (formerly lowrey) has been involved in ageplay and leather community for over 23 years. sassafras is a celebrated author whose queer and leather books (Roving Pack, A Little Queermas Carol, Leather Ever After, and Lost Boi) have been honored by the American Library Association, the Lambda Literary Foundation, the International Leather Association- Writing Awards. Sassafras has taught at colleges, conferences, dungeons and squats from Atlanta to Berlin, New York to Amsterdam including with Lesbian Sex Mafia, and the SF Citadel. The film rights to sassafras’ transgender leather novel Lost Boi were recently optioned.

    Age Play Social
    Gather
    Duration: 60 minutes
    Topic: Kink Identities
    Type: Social

    Love ageplay and want to connect with more ageplayers, or are curious about age play and want to learn more? Hosted by Daddy Jaeson and boi sassafras, the KBtL VI age play social provides a fun, interactive, and welcoming place for new and experienced age players to meet and interact. From storytime to interactive games and guided conversation, we hope to foster dialogue and connection amongst diverse age players. Daddy Jaeson and boi sassafras each have over 20 years of experience as ageplayers and are passionate about fostering inclusive ageplay communities.

    Power Protocol and Playtime: A Deep Dive into Intensive Age Play (Extended Access)
    Zoom
    Duration: 90 minutes
    Topic: General BDSM, Relationships
    Type: Workshop

    Ready to take your ageplay to the next level? Join Daddy Jayeson and boi Sassafras Patterdale, both with over 20 years in ageplay and Leather communities, for an interactive class exploring advanced ageplay themes. This workshop will cover crafting complex scenes, developing sustainable 24/7 ageplay power dynamics, and integrating D/s with ageplay, including little service. We’ll also focus on gender-inclusive play, centering the experiences of nonbinary and transgender Leather individuals. Dive into fluid identities, role-switching, and the intersection of power exchange with ageplay. A key topic will be "dark ageplay," exploring consensual non-consent, humiliation, and pain-based play, including how to safely incorporate trauma and edgeplay into your dynamics.